Suicide, Food, and Love

Day 14

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Day 13

Yesterday was one of those days, where I had everything all planned out, and nothing happened as I set out for it to be. I could go on and on about all the mishaps, but that’s not where the content lies.

Bottom line, is that by 10 pm I was so overwhelmed I wanted to cry. On top of this, as I was driving home, I realized that my new parking situation wasn’t the best and that I was going to have to walk alone in the dark (the people cracked out on drugs show up at night in Venice) from wherever a parking spot could be found, which could be multiple blocks away from my place, as the spots fill fast. 

I worked on shifting myself out of all the negative thoughts, and was not having the best of luck. Unforuntaely, this only contributed to the nervousness, as I believe we attract what we set our minds to, good and bad. I thought about what I was grateful for during the day, but nothing was cutting the mustard from shifting me to the positive this evening!

Lastly, I decided to try a friend and God bless his heart, he answered!! I told him what was coming at me from all angles and how I was having trouble getting into a good mind state, which is normally very easy for me to do. I had told him about my situation from the day before with my focus on results so of course he brought that up. He mentioned that once again, I was too focused on the results instead of just being in a state of presence. I acknowledged that at the current moment everything was just fine, I was driving safely, my car was working smoothly, and I myself was safe.

By the time I got home, I had created a solution without even thinking about it, as I was still on the phone. I parked outside of my building with my hazards on, so I could run upstairs and grab my pup who could come with me, and then we’d walk back from the car.  As, I was talking to my friend, he encouraged me to let go of the past stories of the day, and the future stories of the next moments which I was so attached to. Genius! I noticed, all anxiety dissipating as I came into the present moment. Already, I had solved my safety issue by getting my dog, and within 200 feet as I was chatting, not one, but two parking spots opened up before my eyes. Rock star parking baby!!! Gotta love intention! So grateful for my friend for bringing into the present :)

LESSON OF THE DAY:  True intentions are best achieved within the present moment. Let go of the past and let go of the future, they are just stories.

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Day 12

Today someone challenged me to play a game called “Trade Up.” I don’t know if you have heard about the guy who took a paperclip and continued to trade up via craigslist until he ended up with a Porsche, another with a House, and I think another with a Yacht? Well, I always seem to love a good challenge. So, the rules were to convince someone to trade me something for your toothpick, and then trade up from that, etc. What you couldn’t trade for was food, money, or sex. Ha! Of course being the “dreamer” that I am, I decided to shoot for a car by the evening. To set up mentally for success, I reminded myself of something I always strive for, which is to be the “electricity that others want to plug into to brighten their internal light which also charges my internal light.” So, with this concept in mind, I set out on my mission.

I went to a restaurant, started having negative self talk, but then quickly shifted as I recognize I have a choice in how I feel. I walked straight up to a table of 4 people thinking I was going to get something from every single person there. Well, I had some great conversation, was offered money, food, and business cards. I met potential people worth chatting with regards to business, but only walked away with 2 names and a empty beer can deciding the 5 cents was worth more than the toothpick which was worth a penny, right?

Next, I took my beer can, and traded up for a brand new votive candle from the bartender. Mind you, I spoke to 2 different bar tenders, multiple times before I could convince him to give me anything. I think in the end he just gave in as I asked specifically for a candle vs being vague and asking for anything. Interesting lesson there, maybe?

I spoke to my neighbors at the bar, one almost gave me his cell phone, he also tried to give me a business card, in which I said that was backwards. One of them wanted to maybe chat tomorrow, and offered me a glass of wine. I said thank you, but I couldn’t as food wasn’t part of the deal.

Next I went on to chatting with people outside and I was having a blast with everyone, yet wasn’t getting very far with results. I went from a candle to a clean diaper, thinking maybe I’d find someone with a baby? Well not at 9p. I started thinking about how I wasn’t getting very far, as I saw my friend who ended up with the coolest bracelet. Grrrr. I decided to knock on a door of a salon that was closed, but still had people in it and I have to admit, I believe they were thoroughly entertained by my challenge, so they helped and I walked out with a fork!

I had accidentally waved at a friend across the street earlier, only to find out it was someone else. I ended up running into this stranger on the street later, and we started chatting about everything, super duper sweep, he was from Switzerland, and his girlfriend was from the Pacific NW like me. He offered me gloves, and she offered me a pin. I took the pin, and as I walked away I realized the pin had a picture of a light bulb on it…. That was where I stopped. I had wanted to be the electricity that other’s plug into, to turn on their light right? Interesting how things worked out.

I encourage everyone to dare themselves to this game as its so much fun and also so many lessons were taught from this one simple challenge:

LESSONS OF THE DAY:

1-      Don’t always get caught up in the RESULTS. Because I had been so focused on the act of trading up, I missed out on potential new friends, or maybe even business networking which I regretted the rest of the evening.

2-      Pushing myself to talk to strangers can be super fun, and not only brightens their light, but also charges me up at the same time.

3-      Value is all Perception.

4-      Again, things work out perfectly, I LOVE my little light bulb pin, it now serves as a memory.

5-      I have the ability to change the course of someone’s evening. Quite a few people chose to continue the game with the trade up item, received from me!

6-      If you are genuine, people want to help. I had people scouring for items to give me, or asking others around them to help.

7-      It’s possible to get what we ask for.

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Day 11

HOLY SMOKES I had a busy and in demand day. After living at my friends place for a week, I finally had the opportunity to move into my own place, as it hadn’t been available yet. So at the start of the day, I was on the anxious side as I had sooooo much to do, and so little time. I told myself to remain as calm as possible knowing everything would happen just perfectly.

I got to move, unpack, organize, volunteer for a few hours, get to my leadership class, which by the way lasted all night, and even have a friend spend the night, as there was an early AM event that was right near my place.

My place basically had every inch covered in boxes and suitcases, about a foot and a half of clothes on the bed that needed organization and everything else that comes with moving. I understand others can take a month to move in, but not me. I prefer to have everything put away just perfectly so that I have a clean space and clear mind to work in. A cluttered and filthy home, to me is the equivalent to a cluttered, disorderly mind which limits my creative and efficient work abilities.

I kept feeling my heart start to race as I was trying to figure everything out and how to make it all happen, as well as make my commitments, and guess what?!? At the end of the day, everything was accomplished, my dog walked and even a few work emails sent.

LESSON OF THE DAY: when living in the presence of Urgency, and knowing everything will work perfectly nothing is too big or too much.

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Day 10

Another day of Urgency as I had created a goal of collecting 50 stories for my book as well as setting up three software conversations with retailers. As there are 2 days left in the month, I’m not necessarily feeling that these goals that I intend to accomplish are happening, but I prefer to live in possibility and responsibility so I keep trucking along with urgency and efficiency.

After bringing myself to tears reading through the stories collected via HARO, and responding which alarmingly takes much of the day, I can only feel somewhat special as I’m really doing something special that will really benefit others. It’s so exciting yet humbling at the same time. I cannot believe some of the experiences these people have endured and so many when they were children. I also have people that have written that are still seem to be looking for emotional support, I just write them with words of encouragement knowing that their experience is not only healing by sharing, but healing for others as well. A few are so excited about my project that they are telling other’s to get involved. Some choose to have their real name posted as they want to be available in the event that someone wants to simply talk. This is so remarkable, I love it.

Since, HARO was such a huge success,  I have put out another request for stories, I have 24 hours to collect about 25 more. It’s most definitely possible!!!

Now, with regards to ShopAddiKt, I have many many emails out to retailers which have yet to get me anywhere. So I decided to start conversations on retail groups that I find such as on LinkedIn. Also, am working on submitting stories via news sources such as Bloomberg, WSJ, etc regarding the future of e-commerce to attract attention of the retailers. I’ve been emailing back and forth with some people at Zappos, but really an intro is the way to go sometimes, unless I get outrageous in my ways of attracting attention. I’m working outside the box here. As well as utilizing my network to set up meetings. 

Lastly, I have my second webinar tomorrow so I send out some last minute reminders via all social media avenues, as well as decide to send a blast out to my previous real estate network, I mean, why not send it to everyone? They can unsubscribe if they want.

Now mind you, this may or may not seem like a lot, but in the middle of this day I also had a 2 hour lunch with a potential colleague as well as preparing for a dinner of seven with a friend. So, once again, even with a complete plate full of “get to’s” it works out marvelously.

LESSON OF THE DAY: Once again, I am reminded that even when there is much to do, it always works out just perfectly, and in many cases, more perfectly than I had intended.

I must continue living in the moment, it’s awesome.

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Day 9

Today was all about collecting stories for my passion project, Shift the Paradym which has a series similar to Chicken Soup for the Soul that is all about reflection and empowerment. The goal is to inspire other’s out of their situations, by relating to others when they are afraid to share and talk to someone.  People get to write short short victim stories and answer questions in regards to what happened and how they overcame it.

I have had so many people tell me they have something to write, yet they don’t follow through with the story. I have had a few people state that they sat down, and started, but it brought up so many emotions, they had to stop. Another response is that they felt uncomfortable sharing even with the provided mutually confidential release and anonymity. Of course there are always procrastinators, but it’s really bringing up their experiences that have been shoved down deep inside and bringing them up again to the surface. I’m not as emotional when it comes to these things, so for me I had my story written in 15 minutes via stream of consciousness and I didn’t allow myself to go back to it for a week as I didn’t want to correct it based on “What I thought was right”. So this journey of collecting stories has been a learning lesson for sure. I get to be intimate and vulnerable with people and sometimes strangers, which creates quite the bond and connection between us. Also, these people, many times, are sharing things with me that they’ve never told anyone so to be given this trust is an honor. Another observation is that sometimes when people share it’s been completely cathartic. All of a sudden they are sharing with others; slowly owning it which brings their power and self worth back.

For me, when I released my story, it no longer owned me, but I owned it. Moving forward though, I am working on a series and I'm looking for hundreds’s of stories so after talking with my coach, we brainstormed on creating the urgency and vulnerability. He mentioned getting on the news and sharing with other’s what I’m working on. Now normally, I’d be completely freaked out about being in the media, however it was quite interesting as this time it felt like the right thing to do. I am looking to shift the world and people into their greatness. And with that, I’ve been writing up reporters, and news stations left and right.

Also I have gone to support groups, I have some press online, and now also a HARO query which has so far proven the most effective as I received almost 12 stories in one afternoon. BOOM! I was stuck reaching out to many people individually, yet when there is a will there is a way, right?!? And this time it doesn't seem to matter how I get the story, as every way seems correct. In a state of pure passion, big things will happen.

LESSON OF THE DAY: When you are working on things of extreme importance, nothing can stop you, as you become fearless… Passion exudes and you are in alignment.

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Day 8

After a long night, or shall I say short night of sleep, I’m up alive and kicking ready to start the day. Today I am focused on what I call my “get to” list. Labeling tasks as “get to’s” or "opportunities seized" instead of “to do’s” creates a buzz and excitement around the list versus a “have to or else” negative attitude. Every night before I go to sleep I write down the top most important item of the day that will propel me forward in my dreams and goals. I have found that it’s ok to write down a huge list, but most importantly to do a short list of 1-3 actionable items that are usually the most challenging and influential towards my visions.  In the past, I would have knocked out the easiest items to accomplish, check email, etc. However, I have learned that the most important items that make the biggest difference usually got pushed to the bottom of the list and potentially not accomplished at all. Regarding  checking Facebook, other social media, and email first thing  in the morning, I have come to realize that those apply to accomplishing somebody else’s “get to’s” and living for someone else’s dream and vision. Not my own. Responding to email is not the first thing I should do if I want to get the most challenging “opportunities seized” done preferably before noon. After lunch is when we mentally start slowing down, which is also why their is the typical craving for an afternoon coffee or nap.

LESSON OF THE DAY: Knock the most influential “get to’s” first, then you can read your emails, etc.

I will say I have read The 1 Thing as well, by Gary Keller of Keller Williams. Now, it's the most redundant book I have ever read, but let me tell you it will drive the point home like no other! Also, I think the statement “don’t sweat the small things” can be applied here. If the small things get pushed to tomorrow, that’s much better than the big things which can create resentment, as well as negative self talk amongst us. I’m known among my friends as "Ms. Positive", and where this relates is that finishing our challenging items before noon creates additional excitement for the day as it sets us up for the ultimate success, living our dreams and being our visions.  

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Day 7

Sunday Funday??!? Not necessarily this time. After walking my dog, I end up going with my girlfriend to run errands. As one that doesn’t really cook, grocery shopping takes 15 minutes or less, and my cupboards are constantly bare as that’s where I’m comfortable. However, I join her on a grocery shopping "Event", shall I say? It took us 3 hours to shop, we went to multiple places, and I think we were in the produce section of one store alone for 45 minutes. 

Ahhhhhhhhhh! I complied and dealt though, as I realize that doing things that make me uncomfortable typically have benefit. Where is the benefit in this one may say? I suppose a full fridge of healthy items, juicing, and not needing to go out every moment, could result in a healthier self? The real test is that I want to work this whole time, and there are actionable items that I’d rather be focusing on with regards to my company ShopAddiKt. It takes some time, but eventually I figure out what really is happening here: This is the perfect example of me pushing aside the need and excitement that work brings me, to just BE. This is about shifting my thoughts to connecting and enjoying the friendship I have with my girlfriend. When I shift into that mode, I am immediately relaxed and I am happy in the present moment.

LESSON OF THE DAY: When you shift your perspective, any negative can become positive.

Today, I really get nothing business oriented accomplished, but my friendships are deepened, I support another friend at his event, and we all have a ridiculously good time until the wee hours of the evening. And, at the end of the day, it’s not about business, it’s about family and friends, those that I take a stand for and that also stand for me.  This also supports my personal definition of Success: Happiness in the Present Moment. I mean really, what else is there?

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Day 6

Today it’s time to move on to the next place of residence with my friend in Downtown Los Angeles. However, first, I’m off to meet a girlfriend in Manhattan Beach. While en route I lead a successful conference call which is full of progress and excellent feedback. Then I arrive earlier at my coffee date, so I decide to write some notes as there are mailboxes 5 feet from my car. Its right there, so why not make use of the time. I love sending people cards that are little surprises that make them smile.

Earlier in the morning I had challenged myself to reach out to nine random people from my phone book that I haven’t spoken too just to catch up. At first I wondered why I wanted to do something like that, but then I just started dialing. First person I called actually answered the phone, I hadn’t spoken to her in quite a few months, and it was so nice to just touch base and catch up about what’s going on in our lives. Well apparently, she was in a transition period and looking to get into a new career path in the food industry. Funny, because the next thing you know, I’m at my computer reading an email about an event that’s all for the food industry and in NYC where she lives. So of course I send it her way, and maybe it will be of use, or maybe it won’t. I just find it interesting how that opportunity popped up, and had I not called that email would have ended up immediately in the trash.

As, I continue to make my calls, I have all sorts of self talk about why these people that I call friends wouldn't want to talk to me, or maybe I don’t really want to talk to them, but remember this was a challenge so I continue. I end up calling people I normally wouldn’t, and by the time I’m talking or leaving a voicemail, I’m super excited and curious about what’s going on in their lives. I mean normally it’s all about me, my closest friends, and business. So it’s really nice to step outside the circle, and reach out to people that I don’t normally talk to. I should be talking with them more than once a year right vs purely through Facebook right??!?! In fact calling these random people actually brightened my day and gave me energy.

LESSON OF THE DAY: If people hold real estate in my phone book, they are important to me and calling them isn’t scary it actually pumps me up full of vibrant energy.

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Day 5

Today was purely devoted to connection with people. I met with a friend for coffee that I haven’t seen in almost a year that just happened to be in LA Well it turns out he’s also been living on the edge in his own version of the “Urgency Experiment”.

He had a meeting with someone in Beijing and doesn’t believe in Skyping so he booked a ticket to meet in person. Told the guy he was staying a few weeks so then that person introduced him to others, who introduced hims to others. Next thing you know, a guy says you should be in Hong Kong, so he books himself a ticket there within 2 days and goes for a week. The guy asks of course who are you meeting there; and my friend has no meetings set, but tells the guy you told me I should be there and I trust you, so I’m going. 

UNBELIEVABLE!!! This man sets him up some meetings with his friends in Hong Kong, and next thing you know these people are so inspired with my friend that they are now hiring him regularly as a consultant and flying him to China. Apparently there are now also some business ventures in the works. This is all because he seized an opportunity without fear!

Holy Shit Balls! This was inspiring to me, I mean seriously just when I think I’m living on the edge; there is always something else I could be doing to stretch myself.

1^st LESSON OF THE DAY: Just when you think you’ve stretched, it becomes comfortable. Time to stretch again!

Then I volunteer with the leadership program I’m in with answering phones. I get to talk with strangers and talk to them about their visions and what ails them. In some cases, people were crying with me pouring their hearts out and I felt like they could be my new best friend as all I wanted to do was reach through the phone and give them a big bear hug. This proved again from Day 2 the lesson learned of the intimate connection that can happen when you are present and listen. I intend to meet these people in person now, as our conversations were so powerful.

Last big moment of the day was talking with a friend. I don’t know about you, but do you ever care enough about someone so much, that you try to help them and fix the situation? I had a friend that I got really grumpy with because they were so resistant to everything I said. I mean, we were the closest of friends and then POOF complete disconnect! So instead of continuing our conversations on text like we have been over the past weeks, I pick up the phone. Instantly I realize everything is ok, she’s having some hard times and I just want to be there for her to support her. Our relationship is restored in my mind, and apparently it never was off, oh the power of our perception and stories. Geesh!

2^nd LESSON OF THE DAY: My perception is not necessarily correct, and it’s important to talk in person or at minimum on the phone if I want to maintain my relationships with people.

Next thing you know, I feel my day is complete, so I head home have a nice walk with my pup and create a cozy space to work on my book, “I Fired Myself with a Non-Compete”. 

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Day 4

7a -waking up, exhausted, but realizing I have essentially 4 hours to figure out how to do my webinar, get it running smoothly, etc  I JUMP out of bed. It’s stretch time! My heart and anxiety levels want to go through the roof, but instead, I take my Pup out and focus on living in the moment and breathing knowing it’s all working out perfectly and that I’m going to make a difference in someone’s life today.

7:45a I am realizing that the internet is horrible where I am, and I need a solution to prevent breakdowns, so I reach out to my buddy about working from his office and thankfully that was not a problem.

9:30a- I make it to his office, fine-tune my notes, make sure the presentation uploads online, do a last minute Press Release, I mean why not right?!? Ha!!! I really crack myself up sometimes.

10:15a- I reached out on Facebook to see if someone could help me test out the webinar to make it works, and found someone within minutes.

10:25a- Tester complete, I’m starting to feel more comfortable, ok I can do this. I’m not looking as clear onscreen as I’d like, but who cares, it’s about the information right? I’m helping people here! That’s my intention.

10:45a- With 15 minutes to go, I start posting that online on Facebook, LinkedIn, etc.

10:55a- Meditation time…Deep Breaths, Intention, Vision. OK I’m totally pumped. This is happening!!!

10:58a- I am live and ready to go!!!! A whopping 4 people attended. Regardless, I did the webinar as though there were thousands. I finished in 30 minutes on the dot, and I had 3 of the 4 stating told me they appreciated the information I shared and wanted the presentation to practice what I preached!!! 

Whoop Whoop!!! Complete success. The feedback was great, I was told I should definitely do it again.

Mission complete, I stretched myself, I was extremely uncomfortable, but I made it happen and people learned from it. I even had one person that didn’t make the call reach out and share that they were willing to do my 5 step program for 60 days to give me a success story!!

LESSON OF THE DAY: Magic is created outside the comfort zone.

For the rest of the day, I did not party, but continued working as usual, and then ended up talking on the phone for over 3 hours straight with friends, family, and colleagues.

Seriously felt like one of the best days ever!!!

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Day 3

HOLY  SMOKES!!! What a day. Yes, I'm working on my startup, ShopAddiKt, as well as consulting startups, however I am also enrolled in two different leadership courses which are all about getting us out of our confort zones to make a difference in how we live our lives. 

Well, two weeks ago, I had a friend encourage me to do a webinar and I thought to myself, nah! Not my thing, I don’t have anything to share, not my style, and whatever other negative self talk I created for myself. Geesh! So, fast forward a week and during one of my leadership course I am essentially challenged to create a webinar and post by the following Thursday. Now, this is less than a week away, yet I accept the challenge and to top it off because of my travel to LA, I end up only having one day to fully prepare. I know funny right, I mean why not?!? 

So yesterday morning, I’m stifled as I have yet to figure out what I’m going to even talk about in less than 24 hours. I called a few of my closest friends and asked them what they felt I was an expert in, and what I had to share with others. I was told that I’m Miss Positive, always had a solution to shifting an experience that they had, and that whether or not they chose to act on it, they usually felt I was right. Also, that I was no bullshit. Knowing this insifght from my friends, I’m thinking, now how can I apply this to a webinar???

During my morning walk to get coffee with my pup, it hits me, why not do the Urgency Experiment with others? By sharing with others what I’m going thru, and sharing the experience with them, we can all hold each other accountable and act in urgency. Ok, I have less than 24 hours to go, have figured out what I’m going to sell, but what am I going to do for free?

It's 11am and I’m back at my computer. I decide to start putting it out there. I design a logo I love, create a page for the Urgency Experiment, start working on lead page for the actual webinar, but now I get to add value. I still have no idea what I’m going to talk about and it’s about 2pm. I put my computer aside, and tell myself it’s time, I am figuring this out NOW! I left my desk and went to my bed to get comfy and just sit in silence with my notepad. Then I just started writing. I wrote one thing down, and didn’t like it as it was geared towards the experiment project and I needed something that could help someone in the next 24 hours, and make a difference in their life as that was the intention anyways.

Then it hit me and just started flowing. I wrote out the game plan and my 5 steps in about 10 minutes. It poured right out of me, and I was finally EXCITED!!! I couldn’t wait to share with everyone…Yayyyy!!!

                LESSON OF THE DAY: Create a space with clear intention and let it FLOW

Now that I had that figured out, I had calls to make and didn’t actually get the invitation to the webinar out until 5p. Then, by the time I finished the title page of my presentation I had a meeting to go to, and didn’t get back until 10p. During this meeting, I found myself wanting to create anxiety and stress as I still had a whole presentation to write, but I knew deep down, I was already over the hump, and things were getting done regardless so I kept going. I hadn’t backed out yet, so nothing was going to stop me.

Around 2am, I finally finished my presentation. Mission 90% complete. I’ll save figuring out the webinar technical details for tomorrow. I have a couple of hours in the morning, no problemm, I got this.

So here we have it, a complete mission acted on in urgency, blindfolded, yet 100% accomplishable. It felt good, and amazing that things were happening because of it. 

Another opportunity presented itself during my own personal Urgency Experiment. AMAZING!!!

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Day 2

On the road again! I left Marin County inspired as I headed to LA, after spending a couple hours with some good friends that had made waves of accomplishments in their lives thus far. Sometimes just being in the presence of sucess is motivation in itself. If they can do it, I can do it… right?!?!  

Immediately out of the gates I had 2 scheduled phone conversations, one with my small group leader from a program I’m involved in, and another with a complete stranger I had been introduced to, and let me tell you, when you have nothing else to do, but be present and listen, it’s amazing what can happen from that stance.

Let’s start with the small group leader. It was an efficient 10 minute phone conversation in which I discovered that my need to be independent, and not receive support from others was purely protecting my Ego which stemmed from the fact that my Mother was a stay at home Mom that didn't work (she did end up creating a job for herself eventually after we were out of the house) and of course that I’m a little rebellious.  Although, I want children of my own, I have a constant battle between accomplishing my career, and receiving which could potentially be dependent on someone.  As I want a supportive and giving relationship soooo badly, I have been continuing to fine tune this internal dialogue which only leads me to resist relationships and support from others. We discovered during the call that I need to end the fight against receiving, as at the end of the day, there is no reason for it and that “self induced” program I have set for myself is not serving me. Wowza! It’s amazing what you can learn in 10 minutes about yourself.

My next call was also stimulating as it was with someone I had never spoken to before which was supposed to be purely about our consulting business, but it lead to a potential book, and me writing this blog on my 60 day move to LA.  They were so motivated by my most recent actions in life that they insisted I write about it, as they were ready to read it. Another Wowza! I was unintentionally motivating others and potentially great things were coming from it!

I then continued the drive listening to my Ted Talks about leadership, Lean In with Sheryl Sandberg (a book I intend to read as it’s obviously my personal dilemma), the exciting entrepreneur Elon Musk, as well as talks on individuality, identities, and creativity. This was the perfect concoction as I continue learning about myself and what I’m up to in life.

LESSON OF THE DAY:  When I am open and present for a conversation,

light bulb moments shine through even during a quick 10 minute chat.

As I arrived in LA, nothing but pure passion exuded from my being as I am officially charged up and ready to conquer this world.

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Day 1

It starts on 1/19: the perfect day for me to begin a new journey as the numbers “911” always seems to appear in my life at the most random, yet opportune times. I couldn’t find the day more coincidental! I left my hometown, Portland, OR, essentially fired myself from my own job in order to create the urgency one gets when they are fired or laid off from a job.

In the first 20 minutes of my 2 day trip to LA, I am emotional and just want to cry. As crying is typically difficult for me, I call my Granny to chat as sometimes talking with someone can induce the tears. It works! My head is circling furiously…

• What am I doing?
• My 12 year old puppy has cancer, so why am I putting him at risk?
• How can I leave when I don’t have income?
• Why would I leave a successful business behind?
• You just met an amazing Man, why would you leave?
• Stop trying to accomplish so many things, and just be happy with what you had.
• I am nutz!

Well thankfully that lasted only about 30 minutes, as I’m very much a “flip and shift” when it comes to emotions. I turned on my audio books and finished “Delivering Happiness” by Tony Hsieh where I learn about Zappos, which is obviously a successful startup story about entrepreneurship and putting everything you have on the line to make things happen. Thank you Tony for re-affirming what I’m doing. I’m putting it all out there and going 100% in urgency. They say if you want change, you must be and or create it right??!? Well, consider it done!

I made a 10.5 hour drive in 9.5 hours with a dog and 3 stops. Part of the ride was in silence so I could be present and appreciate the beauty around me, part was listening to Ted Talks, and part audio books. It’s amazing how thought provoking this period of time can be when you sit with yourself for that long.

LESSON OF THE DAY:  Being in Silence for 9 hours can be extremely moving.

I believe in myself, I believe in my ventures, and I believe in the power I have to help others and their vision. So, with a place in Venice Beach, CA through the end of March, I intend to be blindfolded in this jump into the unknown creating amazing results by the end. No plan other than knowing I’m in urgency and knowing this will all work out perfectly. I’m 100% all in and intend to write about my journey including the positives and negatives: daily. 

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