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Day 13
Yesterday was one of those days, where I had everything all
planned out, and nothing happened as I set out for it to be. I could go on and
on about all the mishaps, but that’s not where the content lies.
Bottom line, is that by 10 pm I was so overwhelmed I wanted
to cry. On top of this, as I was driving home, I realized that my new parking
situation wasn’t the best and that I was going to have to walk alone in the
dark (the people cracked out on drugs show up at night in Venice) from wherever a parking spot could be found, which could be multiple blocks away from my place, as the
spots fill fast.
I worked on shifting myself out of all the negative
thoughts, and was not having the best of luck. Unforuntaely, this only contributed to the nervousness, as I
believe we attract what we set our minds to, good and bad. I thought about
what I was grateful for during the day, but nothing
was cutting the mustard from shifting me to the positive this evening!
Lastly, I decided to try a friend and God bless
his heart, he answered!! I told him what was coming at me from all angles and
how I was having trouble getting into a good mind state, which is normally very
easy for me to do. I had told him about my situation from the day before with
my focus on results so of course he brought that up. He mentioned that once
again, I was too focused on the results instead of just being in a state of
presence. I acknowledged that at the current moment everything was
just fine, I was driving safely, my car was working smoothly, and I myself was safe.
By the time I got home, I had created a solution without even thinking about it, as I was still on the phone. I parked outside of my building with my hazards on, so I could run upstairs and grab my
pup who could come with me, and then we’d walk back from the car. As, I was talking to my friend, he encouraged
me to let go of the past stories of the day, and the future stories of the next
moments which I was so attached to. Genius! I noticed, all anxiety dissipating
as I came into the present moment. Already, I had solved my safety issue by
getting my dog, and within 200 feet as I was chatting, not one, but two parking
spots opened up before my eyes. Rock star parking baby!!! Gotta love intention! So grateful for my friend for bringing into the present :)
LESSON OF THE DAY: True intentions are best achieved within the
present moment. Let go of the past and let go of the future, they are just
stories.
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Day 12
Today someone challenged me to play a game called “Trade Up.”
I don’t know if you have heard about the guy who took a paperclip and continued
to trade up via craigslist until he ended up with a Porsche, another with a
House, and I think another with a Yacht? Well, I always seem to love a good challenge. So, the rules were to convince
someone to trade me something for your toothpick, and then trade up from that,
etc. What you couldn’t trade for was food, money, or sex. Ha! Of course being the “dreamer”
that I am, I decided to shoot for a car by the evening. To set up mentally for
success, I reminded myself of something I always strive for, which is to be the
“electricity that others want to plug into to brighten their internal light which also charges my internal light.” So,
with this concept in mind, I set out on my mission.
I went to a restaurant, started having negative self talk, but then
quickly shifted as I recognize I have a choice in how I feel. I walked straight up to
a table of 4 people thinking I was going to get something from every single
person there. Well, I had some great conversation, was offered money, food, and
business cards. I met potential people worth chatting with regards to
business, but only walked away with 2 names and a empty beer can deciding the 5
cents was worth more than the toothpick which was worth a penny, right?
Next, I took my beer can, and traded up for a brand new
votive candle from the bartender. Mind you, I spoke to 2 different bar
tenders, multiple times before I could convince him to give me anything. I
think in the end he just gave in as I asked specifically for a candle vs being
vague and asking for anything. Interesting lesson there, maybe?
I spoke to my neighbors at the bar, one almost gave me his
cell phone, he also tried to give me a business card, in which I said that was
backwards. One of them wanted to maybe chat tomorrow, and offered me a glass of
wine. I said thank you, but I couldn’t as food wasn’t part of the deal.
Next I went on to chatting with people outside and I was
having a blast with everyone, yet wasn’t getting very far with
results. I went from a candle to a clean diaper, thinking maybe I’d find
someone with a baby? Well not at 9p. I started thinking about how I wasn’t
getting very far, as I saw my friend who ended up with the coolest
bracelet. Grrrr. I decided to knock on a door of a salon that was closed, but
still had people in it and I have to admit, I believe they were thoroughly entertained
by my challenge, so they helped and I walked out
with a fork!
I had accidentally waved at a friend across the street
earlier, only to find out it was someone else. I ended up
running into this stranger on the street later, and we started chatting about
everything, super duper sweep, he was from Switzerland, and his girlfriend was
from the Pacific NW like me. He offered me gloves, and she offered me a pin. I
took the pin, and as I walked away I realized the pin had a picture of a light bulb
on it…. That was where I stopped. I had wanted to be the electricity that other’s
plug into, to turn on their light right? Interesting how things worked out.
I encourage everyone to dare themselves to this game as its so much fun and also so many lessons were taught from this one simple challenge:
I encourage everyone to dare themselves to this game as its so much fun and also so many lessons were taught from this one simple challenge:
LESSONS OF THE DAY:
1-
Don’t always get caught up in the RESULTS.
Because I had been so focused on the act of trading up, I missed out on potential new friends, or maybe even business networking which
I regretted the rest of the evening.
2-
Pushing myself to talk to strangers
can be super fun, and not only brightens their light, but also charges me up at
the same time.
3-
Value is all Perception.
4-
Again, things work out perfectly, I LOVE my
little light bulb pin, it now serves as a memory.
5-
I have the ability to change the course of
someone’s evening. Quite a few people chose to continue the game with the trade
up item, received from me!
6-
If you are genuine, people want to help. I had
people scouring for items to give me, or asking others around them
to help.
7-
It’s possible to get what we ask for.
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Day 11
HOLY SMOKES I had a busy and in demand day. After living at my
friends place for a week, I finally had the opportunity to move into my own
place, as it hadn’t been available yet. So at the start of the day, I was on the
anxious side as I had sooooo much to do, and so little time. I told myself to remain as calm as
possible knowing everything would happen just perfectly.
I got to move, unpack, organize, volunteer for a few hours,
get to my leadership class, which by the way lasted all night, and even
have a friend spend the night, as there was an early AM event that was right
near my place.
My place basically had every inch covered in boxes and
suitcases, about a foot and a half of clothes on the bed that needed organization and everything else that comes with moving. I understand others can take a month to move in, but not me. I prefer to
have everything put away just perfectly so that I have a clean space and clear
mind to work in. A cluttered and filthy home, to me is the equivalent to a cluttered,
disorderly mind which limits my creative and efficient work abilities.
I kept feeling my heart start to race as I was trying to
figure everything out and how to make it all happen, as well as make my commitments, and guess what?!? At the
end of the day, everything was accomplished, my dog walked and even a few work
emails sent.
LESSON OF THE DAY: when
living in the presence of Urgency, and knowing everything will work perfectly nothing
is too big or too much.
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Day 10
Another day of Urgency as I had created a goal of collecting
50 stories for my book as well as setting up three software conversations with
retailers. As there are 2 days left in the month, I’m not necessarily feeling
that these goals that I intend to accomplish are happening, but I prefer to
live in possibility and responsibility so I keep trucking along with urgency
and efficiency.
After bringing myself to tears reading through the stories
collected via HARO, and responding which alarmingly takes much of the day, I can
only feel somewhat special as I’m really doing something special that will
really benefit others. It’s so exciting yet humbling at the same time. I cannot
believe some of the experiences these people have endured and so many when they
were children. I also have people that have written that are still seem to be looking for emotional support, I just write them with words of encouragement knowing that their
experience is not only healing by sharing, but healing for others as well. A few are so
excited about my project that they are telling other’s to get involved. Some
choose to have their real name posted as they want to be available in the event
that someone wants to simply talk. This is so remarkable, I love it.
Since, HARO was such a huge success, I have put out another
request for stories, I have 24 hours to collect about 25 more. It’s most
definitely possible!!!
Now, with regards to ShopAddiKt, I have many many emails out
to retailers which have yet to get me anywhere. So I decided to start
conversations on retail groups that I find such as on LinkedIn. Also,
am working on submitting stories via news sources such as Bloomberg, WSJ, etc
regarding the future of e-commerce to attract attention of the retailers. I’ve
been emailing back and forth with some people at Zappos, but really an intro is
the way to go sometimes, unless I get outrageous in my ways of attracting attention.
I’m working outside the box here. As well as utilizing my network
to set up meetings.
Lastly, I have my second webinar tomorrow so I send out some
last minute reminders via all social media avenues, as well as decide to send a
blast out to my previous real estate network, I mean, why not send it to everyone? They can unsubscribe if they want.
Now mind you, this may or may not seem like a lot, but in
the middle of this day I also had a 2 hour lunch with a potential colleague as
well as preparing for a dinner of seven with a friend. So, once again, even
with a complete plate full of “get to’s” it works out marvelously.
LESSON OF THE DAY: Once
again, I am reminded that even when there is much to do, it always works out
just perfectly, and in many cases, more perfectly than I had intended.
I must continue living in the moment, it’s awesome.
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Day 9
Today was all about collecting stories for my passion project, Shift the Paradym which has a series similar to Chicken Soup for the Soul that is all about reflection and empowerment. The goal is to inspire other’s out of their situations, by relating to others when they are afraid to share and talk to someone. People get to write short short victim stories and answer questions in regards to what happened and how they overcame it.
LESSON OF THE DAY: When you are working on things of extreme importance, nothing can stop you, as you become fearless… Passion exudes and you are in alignment.
I have had so many people tell me they have something to write, yet they don’t follow through with the story. I have had a few people state that they sat down, and started, but it brought up so many emotions, they had to stop. Another response is that they felt uncomfortable sharing even with the provided mutually confidential release and anonymity. Of course there are always procrastinators, but it’s really bringing up their experiences that have been shoved down deep inside and bringing them up again to the surface. I’m not as emotional when it comes to these things, so for me I had my story written in 15 minutes via stream of consciousness and I didn’t allow myself to go back to it for a week as I didn’t want to correct it based on “What I thought was right”. So this journey of collecting stories has been a learning lesson for sure. I get to be intimate and vulnerable with people and sometimes strangers, which creates quite the bond and connection between us. Also, these people, many times, are sharing things with me that they’ve never told anyone so to be given this trust is an honor. Another observation is that sometimes when people share it’s been completely cathartic. All of a sudden they are sharing with others; slowly owning it which brings their power and self worth back.
For me, when I released my story, it no longer owned me, but I owned it. Moving forward though, I am working on a series and I'm looking for hundreds’s of stories so after talking with my coach, we brainstormed on creating the urgency and vulnerability. He mentioned getting on the news and sharing with other’s what I’m working on. Now normally, I’d be completely freaked out about being in the media, however it was quite interesting as this time it felt like the right thing to do. I am looking to shift the world and people into their greatness. And with that, I’ve been writing up reporters, and news stations left and right.
Also I have gone to support groups, I have some press online, and now also a HARO query which has so far proven the most effective as I received almost 12 stories in one afternoon. BOOM! I was stuck reaching out to many people individually, yet when there is a will there is a way, right?!? And this time it doesn't seem to matter how I get the story, as every way seems correct. In a state of pure passion, big things will happen.
LESSON OF THE DAY: When you are working on things of extreme importance, nothing can stop you, as you become fearless… Passion exudes and you are in alignment.
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